"Be thankful you have clothes to wear, food to eat, and a place to sleep..." - Lailah Gifty Akita
Many moons ago, when I was a
student, living in the students, each thanksgiving we Miss Lilly would offer her home to international students
over the holidays. Of course, their
thanksgiving was at the end of November. (In Canada we celebrate thanksgiving
in October). And one year I was one of three students chosen to stay with her , over the
four day holiday. She lived in Beatty, Nevada. Not far from the college. So that’s where we went.

DAY 1: Miss Lily was 66
years young, belonged to a number of clubs, and was president of her UFO club. She believed we were not alone, and often found herself out in the fields, communing with the stars.
She was a hoot. She didn’t like to cook. So she got us all to do the cooking. I hated cooking. I was put in
charge of making creamed onions. Yuck.
Thanksgiving dinner consisted of an overly dry turkey, Creamed potatoes,
creamed spinach, creamed peas, creamed onions, yams with syrup poured over,
lumpy gravy, and a pumpkin pie that had seen better days. I think her cat
walked over it at some point. There were paw prints.
Miss
Lilly banged a drum in place of grace. Breathed in deeply, asking us to do the
same. Then she would go “Ahhhhhhhh” then we could eat. Discussions ranged from
aliens, to horse manure production and what we wanted to be.“Be yourself, she said “ tell it like it is. Be truthful.” In
between mouthfuls of creamed onions.
DAY
2: BANG! BANG! BANG! 5:30 came early.We could hear singing in the front room, and the banging of metal pots. With a Wooooo and another Woooooo, all went silent. Then muffled talking. Miss Lily's prayer group. Miss Lily wandered up and down the hall
hitting a metal bowl as loudly as possible. “This is the DAY! Up up up!” Terrified by the noise we hovered at the edge
of our rooms, watching her. “Shopping!” she said, waving her long silky scarf .
“Get dressed. We leave in a half hour!” We piled into her truck. Off we drove towards Lake Tahoe some
6 hours away. Lake Tahoe? Really? We
jumbled along for about four hours. Then
Miss Lily announced that she changed her mind and we turned around and headed
back home. Sore and hot and tired, we stopped at a local mall to take a break.
People. Kids. Santa. Christmas decorations, bands playing,
fashion shows, noise, noise, noise. Kids running. Babies crying. Like out of a
Christmas movie. Lineups at every store.
Everything so expensive. The only thing I got was a Christmas decoration ….a San Francisco cable car…..( I still have it to this day). For dinner we had hot
dogs on crusty buns, slathered with ketchup. Best meal ever. We watched the fashion show, then squished
back into her truck. She sang John
Denver songs most of the way back.
Death valleyDAY 3: BANG! BANG! BANG! 5:00 in the morning, this time. “Get
up. We’re off in half hour to the desert”
What? Where? “Death Valley! Shake a leg. Get a move on. Staying overnight. We’re going
camping !”
I HATE camping. I still do. But once again , off we toddled,1 hour and 33 minutes
in her old truck. Furnace Creek, Artist’s Palette, Badwater Basin, they all
blended into one another. Hot. Hot. Hot. Hot.
We craved water all day long.
In Death Valley That
night Miss Lily pitched one big tent, in a
trailer park. In the dust. In the sand. She told us not to venture out
too far on the sand dunes. Snakes. Rosie Boa, Lizards, Mountain lions. And
Coyotes. Up in the hills. Gnashing teeth. Grrrrrr.She
sat outside for ages, looking up at the sky. The stars. Hoping for a glimpse. “They’re up there, you
know, she said. We sat with her. Looking up with her. And the Coyotes started
howling. Long and lonesome. Long and dark. “ Coyotes be singing tonight,” said Miss Lily. We were scared.
We shivered. Then she had us all sing campfire songs , while the coyotes howled
their song to the moon.
DAY
4: We headed back to Beatty. Sandy, tired, happy. Beatty with it’s museum and Bullfrog-Rhyolite
Cemetery , small houses and quiet streets. Miss Lily waved to us as we headed
back to school “ Remember to look up. You’ll know it when you see it,” was the
last thing she said before we drove out.
Thanksgiving 1963 I never
saw her again. What an incredible Thanksgiving. It was full of the unexpected. Miss
Lily opened her world to us with no reserve.She
always told us to Keep looking up. Miss Lily died a few years later, her ashes spread somewhere
in Death Valley. I figure she wanted to keep looking up at that big sky and all
those stars. They called to her….
Photographs 2020