Tuesday, August 9, 2022

PEANUT BUTTER, JELLO and BANANAS

"Friends are family we have chosen ourselves..." 
-Dahi Tamara Koch
End of August always came fast. Gone were  days of running around with my friend Maria.  Peas in a  pod. That was us. It was our last full summer of being silly, being twelve  years old, being happy in our world

 Our parents were always working. Maria’s dad was a grocer. Her mother was a chef at one time. My mother was a seamstress for a big hotel in town. She used to bring her work home with her most days. I can still hear the sewing machine vrooming away into the  wee hours on weekend mornings. She’d watch a movie while she sewed. She really liked Jimmy Stewart and the “Duke”, John Wayne. 

On  workdays, I was supposed to clean up the bathroom, do math booklets or practise  piano or violin ( yuck).  Maria and I always had other ideas.

Many afternoons, Maria came by, tapping on the door. I would grab my house key and run to meet her. I  took care to be home by four at the latest. My mother took the bus home, and sometimes we surprised each other,  reaching the back door at the same time.

Those  were glorious days. Maria liked to envision she was a  superhero. I liked to pretend I was a  moody actress. We often started our  days down at the beach, below the cemetery, where we’d  pick up stones. One of our favourite games  was to pretend to go camping in amongst the headstones of the graveyard. We used the stones from the beach to build our own little fort.

Our “campsite”  was near the main road, by the hedge, underneath a big pine tree. It  was surrounded by dirt, and pine needles. We ringed it with the rocks we’d been hauling up  all summer long.  We even built a pretend fire, without the flames.  One day, Maria brought a broken hot plate which we set up to “cook” on. I brought peanut butter sandwiches. We  watched them “sizzle” on the broken burner. 
Maria usually had a few bananas on hand. We’d squish up the fruit to shove between the slices of bread. They were kinda gross. Bugs and dirt seemed to get caught in the peanut butter. I was in charge of the thermos of water. And the raincoat. We used that for a tablecloth, a mat, a cover when it rained. It was a well used raincoat by the end of August.  I was supposed to wear it to school.
One  day, I raided out the  pantry and brought  jello boxes in the raincoat pockets. 

Maria and I  liked to dip our fingers in the crystals, then  lick it from our grimy fingers. Then we’d wipe our fingers on the raincoat sleeves. It got very sticky. The ants liked that. We liked that. Maria liked  cherry flavour the best.

We sat in the dirt on the raincoat and told each other ghost stories. Sometimes we pretended ghosts and goblins were chasing us. We’d take turns shrieking for help.

One day an old couple, walking by,  heard us.  They asked if we were having fun. “Oh yes,” we chirped. “We’re camping!” They toddled on.  We returned to our ghost story and peanut butter and jello, and squishy bananas.

A week later,  day before Labour day, it rained. Maria and I  met to play in the cemetery. We spread out my dirty raincoat by the tree, downed the jelly powder, and sandwiches. Today we had mandarin oranges instead of bananas. It was getting chilly so we quit early.

That was the last of our camping game. We never played it again.  I rolled up the raincoat and trundled home. It had a funny smell. Maria waved as she turned down her street.

My mother was waiting when I got home. Turned out the old couple who saw us in the graveyard, also knew my mother from the church. They  phoned her at work.  She stood in front of me ,  with her arms folded. 

My mother sniffed the air. I sniffed. Sniff Sniff. That raincoat  reeked to high heaven. She had me unroll it over the bathroom sink. Pieces of doggy doo doo fell from the folds. She saw the peanut butter, the grass stains, the sticky jelly stuff, brown banana goo.  Doo here. Doo doo there. Everywhere a doo doo.

She got very quiet. Then she snorted. She laughed. Took me by surprise. Then she composed herself. Ready to be stern. She snorted again.

 I was handed a bar of soap and spent the better part of the evening washing , and rewashing that raincoat.  It never did reclaim any of its former glory. It ended up  in a trash bag.   I had no raincoat, for a while. 

On days that it rained, till we could get another raincoat, my mother made me wear  a black garbage bag with holes cut in it for my arms and my head. To school. Of course, to school, wouldn’t you know it? Much to the delight of my  friend, Maria. She thought it was hilarious.

So she wore one as well. Got her mother to cut one out. Peas in a pod, that was us.  We grew up over the next year. Maria  moved away the following summer and I never saw her again. I missed her in the years to come. I often think of her, wonder how she is, what wonderful thing she did with her life. 

But I’ve never missed camping, or peanut butter, jello, and bananas.

Photographs 2022  "Peanut Butter, Jello and Bananas"  for my dear friend, Maria , across the miles.
 

Friday, August 5, 2022

THE HEARSE

"A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." -Elbert Hubbard

I had a few friends, when I was  a kid. Not many. But a few. Abby was one of them.   As the years have meandered on, I’ve accumulated about a gazillion friends, from all over the world. They fill me up till I could just burst, like bubble gum. They complete me. But back when we were 11, Abby was my nearest and dearest. Her parents were a hoot.

Her parents were cool. They had parakeets flying about the house. Her mom didn’t believe in cages. She was a professional protestor. Every few weeks  or so, she switched causes. At this time she was involved in a meat boycott. Her group staged sit ins at grocery stores. The owners gave them free toilet paper if they went away. 

Her dad wore groovy clothes. He didn’t seem to have any particular job.  Those days he worked at a used car lot, polishing cars and  cleaning them up for resale.  

He came home with a Cadillac Hearse one day. His boss sold it to him for $50. Abby’s dad fiddled with it day in day out. It sat in the driveway for a month. Then for two months . Then three. 

The latter half of August , saw a ton of rainstorms. It poured.  The hearse got wet. When the rain stopped Abby’s dad polished it up. Her mom stacked toilet paper in the hearse in bags. She’s run out of room in the house.  We stood around the hearse, with a few of the neighbourhood kids, and stared into its tinted windows.

“Do you think there’s a body in there?”

“Nawwww. Well maybe one body”

“I think I see blood and gore. I’m not allowed to see blood and gore”

“I wanna see the body!!” All the kids clamoured. 

The hearse was  stuffed  with bags of toilet paper. Abby and I didn’t tell the neighbour kids though.  We told them maybe  the bags were filled with  body parts , from  not just one , but maybe a ton of corpses. Arms and legs, mostly. Maybe a few heads. With the eyeballs attached.

Entrepreneurs that’s what we were.  We sold  tickets.They could look inside the  hearse, for a quarter, but they couldn’t open the door or the body parts might slide out of the bags.

We told whoppers about the hearse, to an enraptured audience. About how a cowboy had owned the hearse, and he had died while driving it, and his wife had died trying to pull him from the car. Their bodies were  in the bags. Their bodies had NOT decayed over time, and the hearse and its contents had been used in a movie shoot. We weren’t sure which movie. But no one cared. We would give them full access to view the inside of the hearse, for only the price of TWO quarters! Paid in full, BEFORE  viewing. So everyone  crowded around the windows , gawking at the bags, oohing and ahhhing.

We made a killing, so to speak……

We even gave away door prizes. One package of toilet paper per customer. There was enough to go around.

That Hearse sat in Abby’s yard for about two years. It was our greatest source of entertainment.  Abby’s dad was looking for something better, so up he joined with the Canadian peace keepers in 1973,  to join the Vietnam conflict. Much to everyone’s surprise. 

Technically it was America’s war, but he couldn’t stand by and watch. ”Never be a bystander” was his motto. 

In April 1975 the Vietnam war was over. Abby’s dad returned with his life completely changed. Her mom ended up going into politics, while her dad stayed at home and wrote  books.

And the Hearse? 

Well, that amazing machine was given to the Wax Museum, where the curators filled it with wax body parts and heads galore. 

And we paid  to go see it  spill its guts to the world….

Photographs 2022

 

Monday, August 1, 2022

JELLY DONUTS move MOUNTAINS

"I am the wanderer and wandering is my destiny." -Avijeet Das

In the middle of summer, when it was hot in town,  was usually the time my mother liked to escape to our old cabin at Sooke.  We’d take the old Dodge and potter off to the beach, stopping in  at a farm market. We always got a HUGE bag of jelly donuts, potatoes and great big slabs of steak. 

Off we’d drive to Sooke with our purchases  tucked safely on the back seat.  Once there, out came the Coleman stove. My mother pumped it up till it  would  almost explode, then she’d light the flame and start boiling potatoes, till the skin burst. Next came the iron skillet. She’d fry up each steak , one at a time, till they were good and dead and crispy. “Slather on the ketchup”, she’d say.   We’d eat steak and potatoes on the old deck, while watching the tide roll into shore. 

One time, my mother wanted to  have an adventure; to go home a different route. Up and over the mountain instead of straight thru. The car packed up, she put the bag of jelly donuts on the back seat. “We’ll have them  when we stop for gas,” she said.

And off we went to find the mountain.  My mother  figured she could eyeball it, as it loomed ahead of us.  She picked a side road and started up.  The old Dodge complained bitterly as it squealed along.

We went up and up. The road turned to gravel. Up and Up and Up. The old car complained. I complained. The hole in the floorboard broke apart. Pieces peeled off onto the  road below. 

And there was my mother,  perched on three cushions, so she could see over the steering wheel, her driving glasses slightly askew, her bare feet just reaching the pedals, her hands fiercely gripping the wheel. She told me to look for a cow farm, she knew it was somewhere  near the top. Up and Up and Up……

There were cows. Highland cattle roaming here and there. The gravel road ended at a copse of trees. We stopped. My mother  left the car, and clamoured over an embankment. She left the engine running cause she said the car sounded “iffy”. She stood on the edge trying to see thru the trees. She forgot her shoes.

“I can’t see anything” she  yelled back. I sighed and joined her , leaving the doors open to the hot sticky, old car.  The two of us stood on the embankment, surrounded by trees, trying to see where we were.  My mother  figured she should have taken a different road and wanted to turn back and try again. I wanted to go home.

There was movement in the car, when we returned.  
Three fat raccoons  in the back seat. Helping themselves to the dozen or so jelly donuts we had bought earlier.  Powdered sugar all over their faces and claws.  They  greedily  stuffed themselves. They made chirrring noises.  They were happy.  We sat back on the embankment. Waiting and watching.

Then my mother remembered she left the car running…… 

One of  the raccoons must have nudged something inside the car, cause the old Dodge began to roll backwards. My mother started screaming. The raccoon started dancing excitedly on the front seat.  The Dodge happily plowed into the wood fence behind. 

That fence was good and solid.  The car hit hard, and  slid into the ditch. My mother screamed some more. The raccoons, full of powdered sugar and jelly, hightailed it for the trees. The farmer, out looking at his cattle, came over to see what the hub bub was about. My mother gave him $30  to help get the car out of the ditch.

We limped  all the way  back to the main highway, some 45 minutes away.  It exploded somewhere under the hood, black smoke pouring out like  witches brew. 

 People stared. I slid down in the seat so no one could see me. That sticky, powdery Jelly Donut seat……

My mother, perched on her three cushions, put on a brave face.  It was about 45 minutes to home and she drove that thing all thru town, revving the motor at each intersection, while holding her bare foot on the brake. Smoking and wheezing it finally made it home.

 The old Dodge died. Finally and completely. It never moved again. We gave up on Jelly donuts for a while…….

My mother  lamented the fact  she never did find that road. She wanted to stand on top  and see the world……to feel like she was flying with the wind….

Photographs 2022